Jon from 90 Day Fiancé

Yes, as my one regular reader knows, I'm a huge fan of reality TV, in particular 90 Day Fiancee. It's a show where Americans seek love out of the country, hopefully leading to marriage. This season, a woman from New Mexico has fallen in love with an Englishman named Jon. That's fine, except that Jon has a lengthy criminal record including over forty fistfights. He claims not to have a problem with violence. 

Are you kidding me? 

Men can be stupid sometimes. Especially young men, especially young men who drink. While I've never been in a fight in my adult life, I can understand how sometimes two guys have no option other than to fight. If John fights with Steve, it can be a personality conflict. Usually (key word, usually) the two men fight, one loses one wins, and they move on. Sadly, sometimes it escalates. 

If John fights with Steve, Marty, Joe, Mitch, Frank, Alan, etc then the problem is on John. 

And the problem is on Jon. Getting in so many fights shows that you can't control yourself or your emotions. It'll make a fool of you soon enough, and eventually you'll mouth off to the wrong guy. If you meet a guy who says he's "never lost a fight" you've met a compulsive liar. Jon has a violence problem, and he's in total denial if he thinks it is everyone else's problem other than his own.